…we must try never to humiliate or to accept humiliation, for that hurts everyone. It is extremely difficult for anyone to live with shame or humiliation, and when someone threatens us with violence he or she does feel a little tug of shame for using that method, even if not consciously. When we offer to shift the ground of the conversation toward nonviolence, therefore, we are giving our counterpart a way out. This intention is acknowledged in one of the best terms for nonviolence that I know if in any language, alay dangal, or “to offer dignity,” which was coined during the Philippines People Power Revolution of 1986.
Nagler, N. Michael (2014) The nonviolence handbook: a guide for practical action. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler, p.15.